Under-mothered
You lead at work, hold everyone up at home, and run on empty.
Therapy for women leaders and founders untangling
people pleasing, burnout, and the grief of being undermothered.
courageously learn how to find peace within yourself
Emily Bitner, M.S., LCPC
Specialized in
Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationships,
Overcoming People-Pleasing in Leadership/Relationships
In person in Baltimore & virtual throughout state of Maryland
You are beyond capable, caring, and responsible, and you are like a riverbed slowly drying up, with no inlet to replenish you.
You and your mom…well, it’s complicated.
You haven’t talked to your mom in a long time and that reduces your anxiety but you aren’t at peace about not being in relationship and have no idea about reconnecting with her
Your mom won’t talk to you. It’s the silent treatment, you worry, wonder, and ruminate about conversations all of the time. Guilt and resentment live side by side for you.
You are accomplished, intelligent, capable and still feel you are driven by getting your mother’s approval, you feel like you’re a teenager around her.
You survived by
People pleasing
Being ultra independent and capable
Becoming the one everyone leans on at work
Not having needs
Never being a burden
Finding your worth in your professional life
What if there was more to life than proving you are worthy, good, and lovable?
this is my wheelhouse
Hi, I’m Emily.
I work with competent and ambitious adult daughters who are CEOs, founders, professional leaders, and often mothers themselves who have estranged or highly complicated relationships with their moms. Women who do it all on the outside and have reached a point where all they know is they want support, want to stop the rumination of constantly trying to strategize how to fix the relationship with their mom, stop feeling guilty and responsible, and finally embrace they might actually be good — somehow, someway.
Using Relational EMDR, IFS (parts work), psychodynamic therapy, and attachment-based work, we do deep work, where the real answers live. This work is not only psychological, it is somatic, spiritual at times, and relational, honoring the whole of who you are.
I do more than give you coping strategies or boundary scripts. The work we do is deep, tender and empowering. I’m interested in supporting you in experiencing real change, in how you relate to yourself, to other women, and to the life you can create.